Game-changing takes from the year that brought me all that I asked for — and all that I didn’t know to.
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Ho-ly shit. What the hell just happened? In short, my life happened. I got it — I saw what I’ve never been able to see. Finally, after years of dwelling in an unconquerable war with self-loathing and self-pity, I was graciously cut loose.
Overcome with the peace of mind I assumed was only available on the other side of my wildest dreams.
Up until that point, the dreams were the benchmark. The measuring stick. My litmus test for reality was simply where I was in reference to the grandiose, ego-touting accomplishments I conjured up in my mind.
Nothing wrong with following your dreams, but it’s important to get responsible for the narrow thinking it can result in.
When dreams are the shot-caller, we’re easily tricked — blinded, rather — into the rock and the hard place. We naturally think that actualizing that dream is the sole route to experiencing the type of happiness that breaks the Richter scale of elation.
On the contrary, my friends — it’s broader than you perceive. The dreams you’ve been chasing since childhood aren’t the only thing that will move you to levels so deep, the very essence of your humanity trembles in its presence.
Rudyard Kipling echoes in his poem “If”,
If you can dream, and not make dreams your master.
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There’s so much potential out there, and only .000001% is on our radar — based on the .000001% of our experiences we retain over a lifetime.
Say what you want about politician Donald Rumsfeld, but he nailed it when he uttered the following:
“There are known knowns. These are things we know that we know. There are known unknowns. That is to say, there are things that we know we don’t know. But there are also unknown unknowns. There are things we don’t know we don’t know.”
These unknown unknowns can be some of life’s most meaningful gifts, for we never see them coming. Discoveries that can last a lifetime, altering our psyche at its foundation.
After a year-long inquiry, the following are just a few of the viewpoints that have opened up for me — very much out of nowhere — in the year 2018, which I’ve opted to take on for the time being.
The results have been tremendous.
I hope you enjoy.
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The three most essential virtues you can cultivate to make your life easier — granting you precious time and energy — are forgiveness, enthusiasm, and patience.
Life sucks for many of us because we perceive most everything as ordinary — when in fact, it’s truly remarkable.
You can only consume so much. So much praise, so much comfort, so much joy, and so much love, as a singular human being. The limits are finite. And the only way to transcend the allotment, is to stop being a consumer and start being a contributor.
When in doubt, surrender not to what you want, but what you’re truly committed to.
The journey to authenticity is no picnic. You don’t become real by running from fear. You don’t become real by fighting it, either. You become real by dancing with fear — through accepting yourself as a perfectly vulnerable and at-risk human being.
Sometimes there is no making sense of feelings. You have to be bold enough to call them nonsense from time to time and get that they’re just happening in your vicinity right now. You are not the feeling — you’re just being it at the moment.
The world we live in is nothing without language. Language creates the sense, the meaning, the reason, the purpose. The quality of your life is a function of the quality of the conversations you engage in — both with yourself and with others.
It doesn’t matter how many new insights you gain and apply to your life — you’ll only transform when those insights become a part of who you are in the eyes of others.
Real self-love comes from responsibility. It comes from taking ownership. It’s about holding yourself to account and realizing where you are contributing to the breakdown — not robbing yourself of the opportunity to grow by searching for what will let you off the hook.
The primary reason we don’t make more of a difference as human beings is because we don’t allow people to do so — people will only contribute what they feel they have permission or clearance to contribute.
As much as it stings, the world keeps spinning despite our feelings. The art of letting go helps us keep pace so we don’t miss out on the creation of defining moments.
Resilience isn’t born from willpower — it comes from the cause compelling enough to sacrifice your emotional comfort for.
The ego is a bottomless pit of need. As long as you’re fixated on what you’re getting, it will never be enough.
Content doesn’t matter — performance is dictated by context.
Power comes from stepping into what you’ve been avoiding — essentially, power comes from owning what owns you.
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