I Quit

I Quit

If you've been following my journey to this point, you already know I grew up a fairly troubled kid. Not so much in the sense I was disruptive to others, but more so a disruption to myself (who knows, I probably disrupted plenty of people — just way too in my head to notice). Life was merely something to bear; not to actualize or truly experience to its fringe.

How to Instantly Heighten Your Influence Through Effective Communication

How to Instantly Heighten Your Influence Through Effective Communication

After just about every meaningful relationship in my life bit the dust, I woke up to a few painstakingly common denominators that were consistently tarnishing the effect I was having on people. 

He Who Lets Go Is The Happiest

He Who Lets Go Is The Happiest

Being happy these days has far more to do with what you omit from your life than what you actually add to it. Getting out of the way what’s in the way will make more of a difference than anything you could supplant on top of an already muddled-up emotional state.

You Don't Have To Explain Yourself

You Don't Have To Explain Yourself

Your life is worth far more than simply a distinction of how much money you make, what type of work you do, or whether or not you have a significant other. These are simply the boxes that all of us use to make basic sense of something we couldn’t possibly understand the depth of: another person’s essence.

We're Getting Lazy With Each Other

We're Getting Lazy With Each Other

Emotions come on like a lightswitch — everything’s fine, until it’s not. Nowadays, the blurring of emotions and real life is the cause of many relationships falling apart, with one or more parties quickly opting to “cut the other person off”. Scroll through Instagram or Facebook for a minute or two and you’re bound to scan over a post related to this behavior, as getting rid of “toxic” people is applauded throughout mainstream society.

Read This If It Feels Like Nobody Loves You

Read This If It Feels Like Nobody Loves You

When you’re secure in who you are, you don’t need to be happy every second of the day to feel okay — like your life is worth living. Your neutrality is your power. You level up to elation when you choose to and relish in the peace and quiet of simple, run-of-the-mill contentment for the remainder.

The "Living Your Best Life" Delusion

The "Living Your Best Life" Delusion

Now more than ever, exists an irrepressible level of social pressure to “live your best life”. Standard operating procedure suggests you spend money on experiences and not things, worry less and travel more, hang out with people whose emotional coffee cup is cascading with happiness, be bold as shit, and take lots and lots of pictures.

This Is How You Really Grow As A Person

This Is How You Really Grow As A Person

Moreover, real growth doesn’t happen on your own. It happens with others. You can rehearse a speech until your blue in the face in front of the mirror but it won’t be graded until you step on the perilous stage and repeat to the hundreds of judging eyes.

The River Returns To Source

The River Returns To Source

I lost my humility. After nine months of painstakingly working to strip away every protective layer in which masked my essence, I thought I had reached the pinnacle. I was confident I had surmounted my own ignorance, hellbent on interrupting the negative patterns I became aware of with headstrong discipline. I had finally returned to source, and the river could continue to flow.

So You're Seeing Some Progress. Now What?

So You're Seeing Some Progress. Now What?

The essence of Appreciative Inquiry is focusing on what’s working well generates the enthusiasm and excitement necessary to re-create the positive (and deal with the negatives) in a powerful manner — as opposed to just focusing on the negatives alone. By appreciating and valuing the best of ourselves, others and periods of time, we heighten our security to remain open, curious and detached about what else may be possible.

What You Hold Back Holds You Back

What You Hold Back Holds You Back

The personal idiom “open book” is leveraged less and less these days. Desperate to fly under the radar, I would toss the terminology around when describing myself, hoping to throw the scent off the trail. I — like many other people dishing out red herrings — was hiding something, praying that no one would come and seek.

If You Want To Change Your Life, Think How You Don't Think

If You Want To Change Your Life, Think How You Don't Think

For as smart as human beings are, our self-imposed limitations are omnipresent. The desperate need for certainty, encircling our mind in most predatory fashion, leads us to do whatever it takes to understand why we do what we do — even if we have to make it up. Ambiguity is the enemy, and justification is our temporary antidote for relief.

No Hard Feelings

No Hard Feelings

It goes without saying, it was a fool’s errand to attempt to address outside circumstances whenever my inner waves were most volatile. What I needed to address was how I dealt with them. The discussion I had inside my head. The meaning I extracted from inherently meaningless events. Focus on what I wanted instead of what I had to do.

The Most Dangerous Phrase

The Most Dangerous Phrase

Constructive criticism always made wince. I was never quite mentally ready and even less emotionally prepared. Each sharp comment or cutting remark was interpreted as an arrow aimed straight at my heart, which I helplessly swatted at like a fleeing mosquito. My automatic tendency to deflect the feedback was primarily due to an overwhelming discomfort with who I actually was — and who I pretended to be as a result.

5 Viktor Frankl Quotes to Reshape Your Perspective Today

5 Viktor Frankl Quotes to Reshape Your Perspective Today

With more distracting information than ever available today, most people quietly yearn for wisdom. Rather than fabricate a guidance system that may but probably won’t be applicable to your unique situation, I’ve leveraged one of the finest minds in recent historical memory to forge a more universal guidance system.

The Wrong Path To Self-Love

The Wrong Path To Self-Love

I’ve tripped the alarm on my personality more times than I can count. One of the benefits of being stricken with self-denigration is you never really get too attached to a particular way of being. You’re willing to give up however you define yourself in lieu of a vogue disposition appearing to generate positive results.

10 Simple Ways To Make The Most Out Of Your 20's (That Don't Require A YOLO Mentality)

10 Simple Ways To Make The Most Out Of Your 20's (That Don't Require A YOLO Mentality)

Ah, young adulthood. Does it get any more awkward than this? The apex of irrepressible uneasiness and planned spontaneity, everyone in their 20’s is (shhh, secretly) yearning for a crash course on how to impede being engulfed by an ominous cloud of self-doubt.

How To Be Humble (Sit Down)

How To Be Humble (Sit Down)

I like to think I’m one of those people. By thinking I am, however, surely I am not. I’m talking about legitimately humble people. The kind of humility that ensues on its own volition and not by deliberate attempt. Those who are truly thankful and appreciative for everything that flows in their direction — even the stuff that’s unwelcome.

Here's How To Handle Your Surplus Of Opinions

Here's How To Handle Your Surplus Of Opinions

Opinions, essentially views based on innate understanding rather than fact, can certainly be helpful at times: we’re typically asked a couple of times a day to share on a given topic, so we might as well produce a strong argument. The majority of the time however, our opinions are extremely limiting  and play a role in digging ourselves into holes we struggle to climb out of.

Self-Imposed Toxicity

Self-Imposed Toxicity

We like to think we’re happy and positive people, but reality often projects the opposite. If you wrote down everything you said for an entire day, the feedback  —  patron saints aside  —  would probably be pretty underwhelming. Negativity is everywhere, and it damn sure doesn’t take a genius to locate it. We post our daily inspirational Instagram fodder, jumping right back into bitching about long lines, policy changes, and the car in front of us shortly thereafter.