The world needs you.
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Without a commitment to something, concerns overtake us. Each day becomes an objective of getting things done instead of living our lives. Responsibility is viewed as an obligation, not a privilege. And events and communication become the transfer station for reactions.
Reactions rob us of all our power. When we react, we’re at the effect of something — meaning we reiterate to ourselves just how little control we really have, deepening the impact all the way down to existential angst.
So we numb ourselves — so much so nothing makes a difference anymore. Anything to lessen the blow of being at the effect of life. No more imagination. No more ideas. Simply barreling along with the status quo — not showing off, not falling behind.
Sooner or later, this stops being acceptable, for operating at such a diminished level impacts friends, family, and colleagues in ways you‘d rather not be associated with.
All because you stopped dreaming.
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Dreams are merely thoughts. They’re never real until they exist outside of your mind’s eye. They’re best served as a guidance system for what it is you wish to create — not a means to check out from reality. The broader the gap between dreams and reality, the greater the suffering. It’s no wonder we stop dreaming — it eases the pain.
Your dreaming, however, isn’t meant to serve you. The big house, the fancy car, the perfect family — yes, they’re nice depictions for you to chase, but it’s your chasing that makes all the difference for others.
You having the courage to work through the numbness and give up any thought, feeling or bodily sensation that says you can’t achieve what you want is what inspires others to dream, too — invariably causing them to become better versions of themselves.
The dreams themselves may never be realized, but the dreaming (and subsequent chasing) often produces results imperceptible to the imagination. “It’s better than I could’ve ever dreamed of,” is the ultimate goal. And you conjuring up the scary shit your ordinary self says you cannot have and gunning for it anyway is the source of someone else being able to say those words.
It’s human nature not to believe in yourself. We’ll do more for others than we’ll do for ourselves — and that includes believing in ourselves. The moment someone else communicates you can do it, we latch on. Had Roger Bannister not run the 4-minute mile, it may have never happened.
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Your performance in life is a function of your dreaming. Every area is impacted and shaped by what you see is possible. The result is unrelated — if a commitment is surrendered to, your stand takes center stage and the result is merely a by-product.
Consider the Viktor Frankl’s quote below as a reference,
“Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself.”
Much like goal-setting, it’s not about the dream itself being actualized — it’s who you end being as a result of your chasing your dream. Who you are right now cannot fulfill on the dream. And there’s something inherently refreshing about someone accepting where they are right now, that they’ll have to grow in character to make something happen — a kind of noble humility.
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A dream doesn’t have to be standing on a stage speaking to thousands of people, moving them to tears. It could simply be to land a job after three months of unemployment. Paying off a pile of debt that’s lingered for nearly a decade. Finally being stable enough — both finally and emotionally — to live alone, for a change.
Whatever it is, when a commitment is backed by an enthusiasm and effort typically held back in lieu of resignation, cynicism, and arbitrary, play-it-safe behavior, it’s magical. It gives others permission to live without their foot on the brake. It allows them to wander and explore. It allows them to see for themselves just how encouraging their most passionate form of self-expression really is.
You dreaming is you honoring the existence of others. Leading by example that it’s okay to live outside the box, without constraints, and go for broke— all for a meaningful cause.
In the world of ordinary, we’re desperate for dreamers. More glimmering light in this increasingly dark world.
Hope can illuminate the sky, but it has to start somewhere — one with the courage to believe.
So come one, and come all.
The world is calling your name.
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